Yuppie Diaries: What to do after Graduation

It has been exactly 1 year after I graduated; 365 days after my so-called “Big Day”. It was the biggest achievement I could ever be proud of back then. Para sakin, may napatunayan na ako. Well, for all kinds of families, it was just the start.. (of hell).

You don’t know real pagod (exhaustion) until you have that monthly KPI with 95 as the passing grade but all the delays will be against you. You don’t know real stress when all the living things in your office pressure you – yes, kahit pati plants (even the plants) and the shoppaholic rat that comes after stealing your things. The transition to undergrad to working gurl real quick was a big blow for me. It was exciting but at the same time scary and frustrating. It’s true what they say, it’s more tiring to work than to study. At this state, I belong to the working class who always say ” if I can go back to studying, I will just study rather work. ” And I’m hella proud of it.

Saying this not to scare off all my yuppie readers but to be the Ate you never had who will guide you through the scary world you’re going to face after your G Day. 

  • Take a transition vacation. When I was graduating, some of my friends who were already working kept on advising me to take 2-3 months vacation before starting corporate life. They told me it’s gonna be hard to take a vacation again once you start. I spent almost 2 months being just a palamunin in the house after I graduated. Some people were against my actions, but I’m glad I did. It will help you realize what you really want to do in your life and the time off will really make you think about your life and excited for the next chapter you’re going to have. 

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  • Apply for work but don’t stress. Apply still for work. That time off won’t require you to be always outside party-ing. There will be lots and lots of tambay days and that is when you should pass your resumes. Spend atleast 3 hrs a day just sending resumes and applying to companies online so you are still on-track. Sayang degree bes kung di mo magagamit sa corporate kahit 2 years lang.  

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  • Prioritize your interviews. You have all the time to go to the beach sunbathing or being a couch-potato managing to finish 5 episodes per day of Kdrama but if someone calls you for an interview — don’t miss it. Even if it’s not the company you’re aiming for, still go to the interview. Not only will you have the chance to gain connections from those companies, but you can also practice what and how to answer to interviews so when your desired company calls, you surely are ready to kill it.

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  • Sleep. Sleep more than most! Trust me when I say you won’t be able to catch enough sleep when you start working — even when you try hard. Even when your future workplace is just minutes away from your house. It will not secure you a goodnight’s sleep. I didn’t get enough and still not getting enough sleep even when I just have to cross the street to get to the office. Take all the chances to sleep all day sleep all night – you will be missing it when you start working.  

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  • Keep your stand. Don’t be intimated by your colleagues posting about their 1st payday, payday treat to self, paycheck, workday, work work work status. Don’t mind them. Remember, you’re the upper hand because you’re still on your vacation mode. Take your time. Enjoy the momentum. Good things will happen, you just have to be ready when the opportunity comes. 

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Congratulations to all graduates of 2017. You are now officially unemployed on vacation mode. Enjoy the best of it and hoping for your success in finding your dream job in your dream company soon!

Best,

Elli

49/365 – I’m not the Same Girl and It’s Okay.

I’m not the same clueless little baby sleeping as hours go by, innocent about what life has to offer her; not the same clueless little baby whose safe place is in the arms of her Mom and Dad. I don’t hunger only for food anymore. Milk and water aren’t the only things I’m thirsty for. I can’t cry when problems eat me alive and Mom and Dad will come rushing solving everything. No, I’m different now.

I’m not the same little happy child who worries about which doll to play first or which sweets to pick during Halloween’s. I don’t have the same youthful spirit; the same jolly laughter I can burst out every time. I can’t be careless because wounded knees aren’t the only things to worry about when you fall. It hurts more when friends come and go. I can’t say they’re come running back to me because I have the coolest toys anymore. I can’t expect things to be fixed at the end of the day because Mom & Dad will be there to take care of things. No, I’m different now.

I’m not the same teenage girl who only worries about her academics and if Mom and Dad would be glad with my scores this grading. I’m not the same teenage girl who has time to just lay around gushing and crushing over this boy and that boy. I’m not afraid to show my feelings anymore because I know they won’t like me back. I’m not afraid of losing friends because we don’t talk everyday. I’m not the same teenage girl who worries about her pimples, or her uneven skin tone, or her love handles, or her thigh gap that won’t show. I don’t need to befriend anyone just to feel accepted. No, I’m different now.

But it’s okay because at this point of life, I’ve realized the true value of life. I’ve seen enough ups and downs to know that God puts you through downs so you can learn and prepare for your better ups – the plans he anointed to happen in your life. I’ve gained so many precious friendships to know that God gives you the best people so He can show you how much He loves you through how they love you even in your worst state. I’ve been through enough relationships to know that it is noble to love without any hesitations; to love even when the one reason why you’re still holding on seems to fade every time you prove it to yourself; to love without any conditions; to love even when you begin to lose yourself; to love just like how God loves. I’ve been through enough moments in life to know how to cherish and appreciate everything everyday. Life is indeed short to waste thinking about what isn’t it. I’m different now.

15/365 – Healthy & Fresh Eats @ Gourmet Farms’ The Dining Room

It was a rainy cold Sunday evening when we celebrated my 21st Birthday at the sophisticated vintage-themed restaurant in Silang, Cavite – Gourmet Cafe’s The Dining Room. We just sneaked a little family bonding to celebrate my special day with my little sisters before we head out to Makati.

Their place boasts its Lola’s House-feels theme: It’s like you’re at the house of Gran where there’s a lot of seats for incoming visitors (because everyone is her best friend), dance floor for dancing (every ballroom dance you’ll ever know), and yes ofcourse, there’s a loooot – like a looooot – of food.

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It is a great place for every occasion – wedding or baptismal receptions, debuts, or even just like our small family dinner. It has a center stage designed for these events and loook at that sexy grand piano! (and the white lady playing it – just kidding, sissie!)

We were the only ones inside the restaurant so it felt like we rented the whole place just for my birthday! *kilig*

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Now for the good & yummy part:

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The ingredients for their food are freshly hand-picked from their farmland just beside their restaurant to which they offer scheduled visits so their customers can also appreciate their hard work put on planting to serve yummy eats with fresh and healthy ingredients.

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This is Quattro Formaggi Pizza (Php 400) – Four Cheese Pizza with Roast Garlic. This is my fave pizza out of every pizza. Simple, yet so mouth-watering. Some pizza houses don’t get the right elasticity of those 4 cheeses but they (The Dining Room) topped it off! Their serving time is a little late than average because they bake their pizza just at the moment you order it (Just-In-Time). But mind you, it is worth the wait!

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Another pizza just because. Meat Pizza (Php 450) – Italian sausage, ham, pepperoni, bacon in red sauce.

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Mum always orders the healthiest out of menus – even at Restaurants where it is impossible to have any healthy food. She will always and always find something healthy out of anything. This time, she ordered Arugula Pesto Pasta (Php250) – yeep, healthy and weird stuff (which almost always makes you want to vomit). 

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Gyro (Php350) – pita wrapped sandwich with chicken & vegetables in tzatziki sauce. On the side is lettuce chips which you can separately buy at their store just outside the restaurant. You can also buy various dips & dressings (ranch, honey mustard, thousand islands) for these yummy babies.

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Anddd my birthday cake!

Thanks, The Dining Room for an awesome pre-birthday Celebration!

Visit them here:

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14/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : HAVE SUPER FRIENDS

Have Super Best Friends

Life is much more tolerable when you have great set of friends – people who accept just the way you are; people who love you even more when they saw your worst; people who never give up on you and never tire to carry you when you can’t even stand up.

Friendships like these are one of the true treasures in life so I make sure I keep them in my life. Our relationships are so intact that we even when we don’t talk so much, we still know and feel whenever we need each other. The timing is always precise.

Let me introduce you my best friends: Jed, Angel, and Audry.

I bet your best friend posseses one of the personas of my bestfriends – or even a epiphany of the three! 

Three Personas of My Three Best Friends:

1.The Love Guru / Love Expert Bestie – He knows it all – may it be dealing with a break-up, playing and plotting a revenge for a fuccboi, making someone fall in love with you, how-to’s on how to put-off personalities in a relationship to make him go crazy for you, or just even casual flirting with someone cute in class. He literally will tell you the step-by-step process. He would even be the one to play the role for you (he replied for me during a break-up conversation! crazy guy!).

The unlucky me always ended up with someone who’s just gonna play my heart. They always seem like good guys at the getting-to-know period and will do crazy sweet things to make you fall hard (ganyan ‘yang mga yan! laging pa-fall!). Before you know it, they’re already getting outta your life. Yes, always the story of my love life. When things start to fall apart, I always run to him. He never tires to listen to all of my katangahan in love and still keeps on reminding me lessons he already taught me even for the nth time (he knows I’m super stubborn heh heh – wala e, mahal ko e!).

He’s also that one person in my life to whom guys instantly get jealous of and he always takes advantage of it to show he’s gonna stay in your life while they won’t. Yeah, guess it’s just one of his best friend duties because it scares away dicks like some guys.

2. The Sister-from-Another-Mother Bestie – She’s literally you in all ways – a clone of all sorts. You like the same clothes, like the same shoes, like the same dramas, like the same activities, like the same guy (just kidding, she has higher standards compare to mine).  She loves to do the things you most love to do. You’re always with her in all the craziest and stupidest things you ever did and she surely will be who you are with when you think about doing it all over again.

She dresses you up. She chooses your clothes for you. She’s your fashion guru/make-up artist/hairdresser in one bestie. Her opinion is the only opinion you trust when it comes to putting that sexy picture on social media or not – if it’s too slutty or just good girl image type. She’s also the decider of which filter you’d use for your pictures to obtain that dope IG feed. She will promote and brag about you being her best best friend to everyone she knows. She’s just purely so proud of your friendship.

She’s the bitch side of you. She will bring down any bitch better than you ever will. She will burn literally every human being who tries to do any harm on you. Your life won’t be complete without her bitching on you.

3. The I’ll Lift You Up (Kahit Gaano Ka Kabigat) Bestie – She has bigger dreams than you and encourages your inner Goddess to come out. She can also be your bible-verse- reference Bestie because she can give you the beautiful verses you’ve never heard before. Even though she’s very busy in her personal life, she would take time to listen to your stories, give you advices (with bible verses), and cheer you up ’til you feel so much better.

She’s also the Mommy ng Barkada. She always thinks about everyone before herself. Her bag usually contains 2 of everything because a friend might need an extra tissue or borrow a pen. She cares for you pike your mom does – knowing what you need before you ask for it. She knows what to say every time you reach out to her. She has thevpower to always lift you up whatever situation you are in.

She did so much for me when my faith became doubtful after so many painful break-ups and personal problems – she kept on telling and reminding me things I almost forgot. She influenced me with her strong faith in God that I became more active in pursuing to know and love God no matter what.

Even when they all have different personas, they all have a common role in my life and they are doing an excellent job at it. Our years of friendship is the ultimate proof of their never-ending and unconditional love for the crazy me! They are there in happy, crazy, wild times and they will be there for me when the going gets rough.Our relationships keep on growing strong with the love and trust we entrusted each other to cherish until after death.

So much love for all the Besties in the world! ❤️

6/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WON’T WORK

LDR PROBS

Statistics says 70% of Long Distance Relationships don’t work. It requires triple the stuff you put in a normal relationship – triple the trust, triple the love, triple the patience, triple the efforts you give in. Only a few survives. It takes two strong and brave hearts to make it work.  It is the hardest relationship to handle but one of the most treasurable of all the relationships.

I don’t have a brave heart. I easily cripple when something hurtful is happening. I am not that strong. I easily cry on the silliest things which struck my heart. I am not a fighter. I know when I lost the game. I know when to give up because there’s no point to fight anymore. But I can love as if I am one. I can love more than someone can ever love me.

I risked it all. I risked all my self for a relationship I know won’t work. I knew it. I knew it from the very start. But I still fought for it as if it is a normal relationship after all. I fought as if I am receiving all the love I was pouring in the relationship. I embraced it as if it would bring me forever.

Well, you guessed it. It didn’t end well. But it has taught me beautiful lessons in life of which I will carry as I wait for my eternity.

4/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : GETTING MY OWN SAVINGS ACCOUNT

Getting My Own Savings Account

Investments should be done when you still don’t have any responsibilities. NOW is the time to do so. I got mine when I was still in College and I still use it up to this day. I know banks in the Philippines give Junior Savings account if you’re 18 years old and below but I really pushed my way to get a real Savings Account (because the design seems more tolerable than the Junior one, heh heh RT much). Since I belong to the working class now, this is where I keep my savings especially from 52 week challenge; my own 8 week challenge and; 500 challenge.

  • 52 week Challenge 

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This is an example of the 52 week challenge you can do on your own. You can settle with whatever is best comfortable with you. If you’re just starting on your work and your salary isn’t that high enough yet then you can just match it with just saving Php5.00 or Php10.00/ week. Just don’t forget to set it aside every week. 🙂

  • 8 week Challenge

For this, I am saving 250/cut-off because I’m saving up to open a COL Financial account for Stocks. I want to start investing as early as today so I will have ample time to save up for my future. You can also set aside a portion of your Salary or Monthly allowance for something you want to buy or invest in beside the 52 week challenge.

  • 500 Challenge

I also set aside Php500.00 every pay day for my investments in the future e.g. a house, or a car, or another degree. I just see to it that I save something for myself for future use.

I try to save as much as I can especially this time of my life because this is really the perfect time to save up so your future self and family won’t suffer. You will always be financially independent – never worrying for the future of your family or never limiting yourself in helping others as much as you want to because you have the resources.

PS. Don’t starve yourself in saving, just take what blessing is enough for you. Bes, di lahat sa’yo. Char-mander. Also, don’t stress yourself up – choose whatever plan you’re best comfortable in doing. Just enjoy the fulfillment of saving. 🙂

1/ 365 – 5 Tips I would advice my 2016 Self

Hi 2016 Self – we’ve been through a lot and it has shaped us in ways we don’t know possible. We’ve been through ups that created us new memories we can add into our life line and downs which made us forget how wonderful life is. Still, we’re here and we’re moving forward. That’s what’s important, right? Learning to accept and continue life as we know it. These are my words to you and all the beautiful ladies out there who will have the courage to carry on their life despite every circumstances that tried to bring them down.

  1. Don’t settle for anything less than what you originally wanted. Be firm with your non-negotiables. Don’t settle for silver when you wanted gold. Don’t settle with pwede na. Babe, don’t degrade your standards just because someone gives some shit for you. That’s just trash compare to what should be truly yours. You are ever worthy of whatever you aspire for, so make it happen.
  2. Learn to walk away. ‘Second chances, they don’t matter. People never change’ (Hayley Williams on Misery Business) Set your soft and hard limits – yes fine, it’s okay to give second chances but it should end on that. Once the deed was done, it will happen again. Trust me. Get out of that destructive relationship. Walk away with dignity – for you to not lose yourself any further. You did your job, you gave all your love, and you did everything you can to make it work. If he doesn’t appreciate it still, it’s time to pack your bags and leave.
  3. Put yourself above anyone. No, it’s not being selfish but it’s about loving yourself so much as you have loved everyone else. When you love someone, you don’t want anyone, not even a single bee, hurt them and that’s what you will also do to yourself. Appreciate your strengths and embrace your weaknesses. Love yourself more when you feel like no one does. That is when no one can ever get near to hurt you.
  4. Learn to trust God more. It really, really works. My Tita once told me I was the happiest girl experiencing break-up. Well, maybe this is the reason why. I trusted God above anyone else. I let His love to numb whatever pain I was feeling. I let His love, and only His love, to reign in my heart and soul and it worked seemingly right for me. Do it and you’ll know how wonderful it is for your broken heart to be filled and reincarnated in God’s love.
  5. Don’t give up proven & tested relationships. Spend and cherish moments with your family and best friends even when it would cause an argument between you and your partner. They were there when he wasn’t around yet; they are there through the ups and downs of your relationships and; they will be there when he breaks your heart. They will always be there for you and you should always be there for them also. These are true relationships that you can keep forever.

Time and people may change and circumstances may seem to repeat and repeat again; but with what you’ve been through, you’re different now. You’re stronger. You’re better. You’re braver. You’re much more ready for something bigger this year.

Love,

2017 self.