50/365 – #LetDad&MomKnow 

To Papa & Mama, I might not say and express fully how much I adore & love the both of you, but through my words you’ll know how much I do. 
The moment I opened up my life to my parents, everything felt lighter – like a huge sack of rice was lifted from my shoulder. I don’t have to hide anything from anyone; I don’t have to worry about telltales from big-mouthed neighbors.

Parents.. no matter how strict they are, no matter how annoying they are with their constant follow-up whenever you leave the house, no matter how irritating they become when they keep on repeating and repeating and repeating words of wisdom you already know and heard for the nth time – they deserve to know, you know. They’re strict like that because they are trying their very best to lead you to the right way. They bombard you with so many questions and assumptions because they simply care about you and what happens in your life. The only thing you can ever give back to those years they sacrificed caring and loving you the best way they can is to let them in your life. Trust me, they’re the best-est best friends you can ever have.

Let me tell you where it started. I had my first-somewhat-relationship when I was in 6th grade. I was the talk of town – new student feels, yeah. That was also when I started keeping things from my parents. They wouldn’t approve of it – I knew it. So it continued as I entered failed relationships after another. Don’t get me wrong, we’re legal. They know who it was and they got to meet everyone during the courtship. But the barrier remained. They would just see the guy once or twice and that was it. Maybe that was why my relationships kept on failing. But on some point somewhere, everything started changing. I would ask advice from my Dad when everything was so complicated or when my ex would throw tantrums at me for irrelevant reasons. Hey, my Dad’s one of the strictest and most disciplinarian Dads you would ever meet. He’s part of the watch-me-kill-the-guy-with-my-own-hands or i’m-watching-you-douchebag-so-you-better-be-careful Dad Club. Oh and my mom, oh my Mom’s the most sophisticated and mataray Mom you’d ever encounter. She’s so intimidating my exes worried about her approval more than my Dad’s. We connect to some stuff but we just fight over almost everything. Despite that, I was surprised when they gave great advices when I was opening up to them. Maybe it was also because we shared a deeper bond when we started attending The Feast that I got the courage to open up to them and they got the understanding and wisdom to relate and give me advices as they know best. To my surprise (again), I found myself crying to them when my ex broke up with me (in front of them).

Maybe your parents are not as understanding as mine is or your bond is not as close as we have – but these things will keep intact despite the differences:

1. Your parents know you best. 

Darling, your mom carried you on her mind since the day they thought of having you. Your dad knew how precious you are since the day he held you in his arms when you couldn’t even open your eyes. They. Know. You. Best. They know your worth more than anyone else. They know what you deserve to have and they’d sacrifice everything just for you to have it right in your hands. You may change overtime, but they would still know how beautiful you are inside and out. Keep that in mind. For a creator knows the true value of his creation.

2. Your parents know what’s best for you. 

Trust me. Even when sometimes what they make you do makes no sense AT ALL. You’re realize one day the purpose of everything they made you do. Parents feel everything. The moment you introduce someone to them, they know it beforehand if that guy would hurt you or not. You’ll know it through their actions – my mom wouldn’t talk to my ex even just for a little bit because she knew he would just hurt me (this was revealed after our almost 2-year relationship)

3. Your parents are your most dependable knights-in-shining armor.  

They will defend you against anyone. They will rescue you through anything – no matter how deep the damage is. They will fight with you side-by-side. Even when it is your fault, they will tell you where you went wrong, might get mad with you a little bit, apologize for you if needed, they will always and forever be fighting for you.

4. Family is family. 

They will accept you no matter what – your past, your present, and your future. No matter how martyr you are in loving, no matter how irritating you are because you don’t listen to everyone when you love, no matter how blind you are in your decisions, and no matter how much you care to try even after so many failures. They will always be by your side through it all. You will always be a part of the family and it will be disabled without you.

5. Your parents are God-given. 

God speaks to you through the people He put in your life. He gave them to you, arranged and placed them in your life so you can have the best navigators, guides, co-captain in becoming the best you can be; the YOU He has imagined, planned, and destined you to be. Know that through the way your parents love you, care for you, and cherish you is God’s way of showing how much He loves you through them. Value them with everything you are because they deserve it.

So much love for all the parents in the world! 🙌🏻

PS,

#LetDad&MomKnow

 

 

14/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : HAVE SUPER FRIENDS

Have Super Best Friends

Life is much more tolerable when you have great set of friends – people who accept just the way you are; people who love you even more when they saw your worst; people who never give up on you and never tire to carry you when you can’t even stand up.

Friendships like these are one of the true treasures in life so I make sure I keep them in my life. Our relationships are so intact that we even when we don’t talk so much, we still know and feel whenever we need each other. The timing is always precise.

Let me introduce you my best friends: Jed, Angel, and Audry.

I bet your best friend posseses one of the personas of my bestfriends – or even a epiphany of the three! 

Three Personas of My Three Best Friends:

1.The Love Guru / Love Expert Bestie – He knows it all – may it be dealing with a break-up, playing and plotting a revenge for a fuccboi, making someone fall in love with you, how-to’s on how to put-off personalities in a relationship to make him go crazy for you, or just even casual flirting with someone cute in class. He literally will tell you the step-by-step process. He would even be the one to play the role for you (he replied for me during a break-up conversation! crazy guy!).

The unlucky me always ended up with someone who’s just gonna play my heart. They always seem like good guys at the getting-to-know period and will do crazy sweet things to make you fall hard (ganyan ‘yang mga yan! laging pa-fall!). Before you know it, they’re already getting outta your life. Yes, always the story of my love life. When things start to fall apart, I always run to him. He never tires to listen to all of my katangahan in love and still keeps on reminding me lessons he already taught me even for the nth time (he knows I’m super stubborn heh heh – wala e, mahal ko e!).

He’s also that one person in my life to whom guys instantly get jealous of and he always takes advantage of it to show he’s gonna stay in your life while they won’t. Yeah, guess it’s just one of his best friend duties because it scares away dicks like some guys.

2. The Sister-from-Another-Mother Bestie – She’s literally you in all ways – a clone of all sorts. You like the same clothes, like the same shoes, like the same dramas, like the same activities, like the same guy (just kidding, she has higher standards compare to mine).  She loves to do the things you most love to do. You’re always with her in all the craziest and stupidest things you ever did and she surely will be who you are with when you think about doing it all over again.

She dresses you up. She chooses your clothes for you. She’s your fashion guru/make-up artist/hairdresser in one bestie. Her opinion is the only opinion you trust when it comes to putting that sexy picture on social media or not – if it’s too slutty or just good girl image type. She’s also the decider of which filter you’d use for your pictures to obtain that dope IG feed. She will promote and brag about you being her best best friend to everyone she knows. She’s just purely so proud of your friendship.

She’s the bitch side of you. She will bring down any bitch better than you ever will. She will burn literally every human being who tries to do any harm on you. Your life won’t be complete without her bitching on you.

3. The I’ll Lift You Up (Kahit Gaano Ka Kabigat) Bestie – She has bigger dreams than you and encourages your inner Goddess to come out. She can also be your bible-verse- reference Bestie because she can give you the beautiful verses you’ve never heard before. Even though she’s very busy in her personal life, she would take time to listen to your stories, give you advices (with bible verses), and cheer you up ’til you feel so much better.

She’s also the Mommy ng Barkada. She always thinks about everyone before herself. Her bag usually contains 2 of everything because a friend might need an extra tissue or borrow a pen. She cares for you pike your mom does – knowing what you need before you ask for it. She knows what to say every time you reach out to her. She has thevpower to always lift you up whatever situation you are in.

She did so much for me when my faith became doubtful after so many painful break-ups and personal problems – she kept on telling and reminding me things I almost forgot. She influenced me with her strong faith in God that I became more active in pursuing to know and love God no matter what.

Even when they all have different personas, they all have a common role in my life and they are doing an excellent job at it. Our years of friendship is the ultimate proof of their never-ending and unconditional love for the crazy me! They are there in happy, crazy, wild times and they will be there for me when the going gets rough.Our relationships keep on growing strong with the love and trust we entrusted each other to cherish until after death.

So much love for all the Besties in the world! ❤️