Yuppie Diaries: What to do after Graduation

It has been exactly 1 year after I graduated; 365 days after my so-called “Big Day”. It was the biggest achievement I could ever be proud of back then. Para sakin, may napatunayan na ako. Well, for all kinds of families, it was just the start.. (of hell).

You don’t know real pagod (exhaustion) until you have that monthly KPI with 95 as the passing grade but all the delays will be against you. You don’t know real stress when all the living things in your office pressure you – yes, kahit pati plants (even the plants) and the shoppaholic rat that comes after stealing your things. The transition to undergrad to working gurl real quick was a big blow for me. It was exciting but at the same time scary and frustrating. It’s true what they say, it’s more tiring to work than to study. At this state, I belong to the working class who always say ” if I can go back to studying, I will just study rather work. ” And I’m hella proud of it.

Saying this not to scare off all my yuppie readers but to be the Ate you never had who will guide you through the scary world you’re going to face after your G Day. 

  • Take a transition vacation. When I was graduating, some of my friends who were already working kept on advising me to take 2-3 months vacation before starting corporate life. They told me it’s gonna be hard to take a vacation again once you start. I spent almost 2 months being just a palamunin in the house after I graduated. Some people were against my actions, but I’m glad I did. It will help you realize what you really want to do in your life and the time off will really make you think about your life and excited for the next chapter you’re going to have. 

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  • Apply for work but don’t stress. Apply still for work. That time off won’t require you to be always outside party-ing. There will be lots and lots of tambay days and that is when you should pass your resumes. Spend atleast 3 hrs a day just sending resumes and applying to companies online so you are still on-track. Sayang degree bes kung di mo magagamit sa corporate kahit 2 years lang.  

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  • Prioritize your interviews. You have all the time to go to the beach sunbathing or being a couch-potato managing to finish 5 episodes per day of Kdrama but if someone calls you for an interview — don’t miss it. Even if it’s not the company you’re aiming for, still go to the interview. Not only will you have the chance to gain connections from those companies, but you can also practice what and how to answer to interviews so when your desired company calls, you surely are ready to kill it.

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  • Sleep. Sleep more than most! Trust me when I say you won’t be able to catch enough sleep when you start working — even when you try hard. Even when your future workplace is just minutes away from your house. It will not secure you a goodnight’s sleep. I didn’t get enough and still not getting enough sleep even when I just have to cross the street to get to the office. Take all the chances to sleep all day sleep all night – you will be missing it when you start working.  

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  • Keep your stand. Don’t be intimated by your colleagues posting about their 1st payday, payday treat to self, paycheck, workday, work work work status. Don’t mind them. Remember, you’re the upper hand because you’re still on your vacation mode. Take your time. Enjoy the momentum. Good things will happen, you just have to be ready when the opportunity comes. 

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Congratulations to all graduates of 2017. You are now officially unemployed on vacation mode. Enjoy the best of it and hoping for your success in finding your dream job in your dream company soon!

Best,

Elli

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3/365 – To the One Who Broke My Heart Last Year 

I loved you genuinely since the day we were together. I did everything for you and in the name of our love. I put down almost everything in my life just to give way for our love. I even disregarded and changed my dreams so as it would best suit our situation. I did everything to deserve your love and this is where I made myself undeserving of my own love. Maybe this is where you also learned to love me less. 

I made everything easy for you. I made loving me as easy as making your morning coffee. You didn’t have to come to me because I was the one who came to you. You didn’t have to give me gifts because I have given you the corniest of them. You didn’t have to exert any effort because I have given you everything even before you asked for it. I didn’t give you any reason to not love me but maybe I this is where you found some reasons to love me less.

I made my world revolve around the thought of a lifetime with you – I made my plans and dreams according to your plans for youself hoping that I would fit in even just on the tiny bits of it. But I failed everytime I tried. I made the world fall in love with my illusion of your love – I hid the oh-nos and imperfections because I wanted everyone to love you as much as I have loved you. Maybe this is where you found another reason to love me less. 

I knew there was something else you wanted even if I have given you everything I am. I knew you wanted something I cannot give and you found it with someone else. I knew that behind your I love yous and I miss yous were hidden signs of I don’t want to be with you anymore. I knew we were falling apart and yet I was there still picking up the pieces and putting them altogether just to fall even shattered than ever. I chose to fight even though I’m bleeding; to love even when my heart was going away with every beat. Maybe this is where you finally to chose to unlove me. 

This is where I draw the line. You didn’t deserve me since day 1 and even on the days when you tried to because I knew I loved you more the whole time. Thank you for the memories and the lessons which came with it. But this is the end of us and the start of a new me. You were a huge part of my last year but you will never be a part of this year and all of the years to come. I’m giving you up and I’m forgetting everything about you. You did love me less when I loved you more and this is what I will do with all of my regained pieces altogether – unloving you and loving myself more. You are my biggest and most painful heartbreak of all time and it won’t be easy for me to do all these things but watch me do it and you’ll know it was a mistake for loving me less every time. 

With hopes & promises, 

Elli

1/ 365 – 5 Tips I would advice my 2016 Self

Hi 2016 Self – we’ve been through a lot and it has shaped us in ways we don’t know possible. We’ve been through ups that created us new memories we can add into our life line and downs which made us forget how wonderful life is. Still, we’re here and we’re moving forward. That’s what’s important, right? Learning to accept and continue life as we know it. These are my words to you and all the beautiful ladies out there who will have the courage to carry on their life despite every circumstances that tried to bring them down.

  1. Don’t settle for anything less than what you originally wanted. Be firm with your non-negotiables. Don’t settle for silver when you wanted gold. Don’t settle with pwede na. Babe, don’t degrade your standards just because someone gives some shit for you. That’s just trash compare to what should be truly yours. You are ever worthy of whatever you aspire for, so make it happen.
  2. Learn to walk away. ‘Second chances, they don’t matter. People never change’ (Hayley Williams on Misery Business) Set your soft and hard limits – yes fine, it’s okay to give second chances but it should end on that. Once the deed was done, it will happen again. Trust me. Get out of that destructive relationship. Walk away with dignity – for you to not lose yourself any further. You did your job, you gave all your love, and you did everything you can to make it work. If he doesn’t appreciate it still, it’s time to pack your bags and leave.
  3. Put yourself above anyone. No, it’s not being selfish but it’s about loving yourself so much as you have loved everyone else. When you love someone, you don’t want anyone, not even a single bee, hurt them and that’s what you will also do to yourself. Appreciate your strengths and embrace your weaknesses. Love yourself more when you feel like no one does. That is when no one can ever get near to hurt you.
  4. Learn to trust God more. It really, really works. My Tita once told me I was the happiest girl experiencing break-up. Well, maybe this is the reason why. I trusted God above anyone else. I let His love to numb whatever pain I was feeling. I let His love, and only His love, to reign in my heart and soul and it worked seemingly right for me. Do it and you’ll know how wonderful it is for your broken heart to be filled and reincarnated in God’s love.
  5. Don’t give up proven & tested relationships. Spend and cherish moments with your family and best friends even when it would cause an argument between you and your partner. They were there when he wasn’t around yet; they are there through the ups and downs of your relationships and; they will be there when he breaks your heart. They will always be there for you and you should always be there for them also. These are true relationships that you can keep forever.

Time and people may change and circumstances may seem to repeat and repeat again; but with what you’ve been through, you’re different now. You’re stronger. You’re better. You’re braver. You’re much more ready for something bigger this year.

Love,

2017 self.

4 Ways to Earn Money & Make Ipon in College

We hate Mondays. They are the evilest among all of the days of the week. This is when never-ending paper works and assignments are to be passed and the most horrible duty of the day is waking up early in the morning after 2 days of pure succumbing to the four-foot, square-shaped, soft-cushioned best friend of all – the bed.

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Monday is also when half of our allowances are spent. Some of us receive our baon monthly, weekly, daily – depende sa trip ng magulang mo [depends on the mood of your parents]. Well, for me I receive it weekly so I always feel rich on Mondays and a beggar on Fridays. My crazy bunch of friends always invites the whole gang to eat in fancy restaurants on Mondays and because everyone haaates Mondays, we are always convinced to go – no justifications needed. That is why on Wednesdays, we are limited to only one meal a day (those P50 value meals in the University Cafeteria) even though our classes end at 5pm every day. For Thursdays and Fridays, we would just end up buying 4 pcs. kwek-kwek and large buko juice for our lunch. Pity on us, right? Ha,ha.

However, if I was saving up for something I really really wanted to buy but my parents won’t for me, I had my ways. 🙂 What’s the use of majoring in Business if you don’t have the urge to start a business every single day of your life? [ I major in Business Operations Management so maybe this was only for me and all of the Business Majors but of course this is all applicable to all Kolehiyala and Kolehiyolo[? YOLO! Hahaha] out there! ]

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  1. Selling Notes

There are really those annoying lazy classmates who doesn’t write even a single letter on their notebooks and when there will be exams, they’d go to you and photocopy your notes a hundred times. And you think to yourself, “all those inks I’ve spent, dizzying board-to-notebook (repeat several times) eye exercises, building calluses on my fingers, and they would have my hard-earned written knowledge without any effort? NO! I demand a talent fee! That is genuine talent, you guys!”

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I did this and priced my work of art P2 per page (if it is not a major subject) and P5 per page (if it is a major or math subject). It’s really up to you how you’re going to price yours; lazy and needy people will come anyway!

PS. Sometimes I’m one of the annoying lazy class mates also. So, no hate on everyone! Heh heh 😉

  1. Online Business in Instagram or Facebook

Since I’m a Business Operations Management major, almost all of our subjects require us to sell something on something. Like for our Technical Application subject, we were required to sell whatever we like on Facebook and we should be able to accumulate a profit out of it. We sold various clothing like skater skirts, corsets, statement shirts which were trendy back then. Our customers were mostly inside the campus because it required no shipping fee and holding fee which was easier for us. This was the start for me – after this experience, I built an online shop together with my best friend and another one with my boyfriend – now ex. I earned almost P10,000 for both shops during the 3 months of its existence. Sadly, these two worked out a little bit but didn’t managed to reach its peak because every time I or my partner would get busy on something in school and the management of the shop would be the first to be given up.

Instagram and Facebook are both great platforms for online business venturing (my thesis is about this: Instagram: A Platform for Online Business Venturing). Of course, as a student, we would not have enough funds for a capital – luckily, there are so many suppliers in Instagram and Facebook who allow you to use their photos for your display and supply you with their products if there are orders from you. I met great suppliers from Instagram (I used Instagram more often that FB for my online shops) and they allowed me to use this trick. You just have to be careful to choose who your supplier is going to be. You should choose someone who is near you and is a direct supplier. There is a great risk that you’d get a pricier one if you get your items from an indirect supplier. And yes of course, you can personally message me and I’d be super happy to help you start your own online shop! 🙂

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  1. Network Marketing/Direct Sales

You can join in some of the accredited Network Marketing in your place and there’s a great chance of you earning money fast if you will be able to manage it properly. There are advantages and disadvantages joining this and you just have to weigh it for yourself. Unlike online business, this requires money for capital (or as they call it: pay in). I have some of my closest friends earning huge amount in this kind of business.

For my case, I joined a Life Insurance Company here in the Philippines. But before this, I was a member also of Network Marketing but I figured out that it was not for me. I was able to weigh the pros and cons for me; did try to work it out to the best I can but it really was not what I wanted to do. So then, I ventured into another type of business – the financial consultancy area. To be honest, it was too much for me – I was really the most newbie of all the newbies. When I attended my Basic Training Course, I was the youngest and my age difference to everyone was 5-20 years. But then, when I finished it and learned the basics and most of the complex details about the company, I was really astonished of the capability of the company and the importance of Life Insurance Policies. It was life-changing and I’m an earning member for a year now! 🙂

  1. Selling last semester’s books to lower years or selling last year’s clothes

In our University, we have annual book selling and there you can sell books you will not use anymore. Almost all of the students purchase books here because it is cheaper and sometimes the book has answers on it already! If your university doesn’t have this, then why don’t you start your own? Advertise the book you’re selling to groups or pages of your batch, classes or the student councils’. You just have to let the buyers know what you’re selling then eventually someone out there will message you and buy from you! 🙂

Same goes to the clothes you want to sell because it’s already outdated. But I suggest you advertise it on Instagram and Facebook also – nobody will pay attention to that on your school pages – Feeling Rich Kiddos and the Truly Rich Kiddos don’t want any of that, we both know that. You will see a lot of Preloved Items offered in IG & FB and you just have to create your own strategy on selling them – you can have promos like: 2 for the price of 1, freebies, free something for every P200 purchase, the craziest you can think of as long as you will still have the profit you aim for! 🙂

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And this is how I managed to earn and save up in my 4 amazing years in college! How about yours?

I know it’s a bit scary starting any of these ways and I would always be one mail away to help ya! Let’s discuss about strategies over my favorite, cupcake and tea!!!! 🙂

Talk to you soon! ❤