14/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : HAVE SUPER FRIENDS

Have Super Best Friends

Life is much more tolerable when you have great set of friends – people who accept just the way you are; people who love you even more when they saw your worst; people who never give up on you and never tire to carry you when you can’t even stand up.

Friendships like these are one of the true treasures in life so I make sure I keep them in my life. Our relationships are so intact that we even when we don’t talk so much, we still know and feel whenever we need each other. The timing is always precise.

Let me introduce you my best friends: Jed, Angel, and Audry.

I bet your best friend posseses one of the personas of my bestfriends – or even a epiphany of the three! 

Three Personas of My Three Best Friends:

1.The Love Guru / Love Expert Bestie – He knows it all – may it be dealing with a break-up, playing and plotting a revenge for a fuccboi, making someone fall in love with you, how-to’s on how to put-off personalities in a relationship to make him go crazy for you, or just even casual flirting with someone cute in class. He literally will tell you the step-by-step process. He would even be the one to play the role for you (he replied for me during a break-up conversation! crazy guy!).

The unlucky me always ended up with someone who’s just gonna play my heart. They always seem like good guys at the getting-to-know period and will do crazy sweet things to make you fall hard (ganyan ‘yang mga yan! laging pa-fall!). Before you know it, they’re already getting outta your life. Yes, always the story of my love life. When things start to fall apart, I always run to him. He never tires to listen to all of my katangahan in love and still keeps on reminding me lessons he already taught me even for the nth time (he knows I’m super stubborn heh heh – wala e, mahal ko e!).

He’s also that one person in my life to whom guys instantly get jealous of and he always takes advantage of it to show he’s gonna stay in your life while they won’t. Yeah, guess it’s just one of his best friend duties because it scares away dicks like some guys.

2. The Sister-from-Another-Mother Bestie – She’s literally you in all ways – a clone of all sorts. You like the same clothes, like the same shoes, like the same dramas, like the same activities, like the same guy (just kidding, she has higher standards compare to mine).  She loves to do the things you most love to do. You’re always with her in all the craziest and stupidest things you ever did and she surely will be who you are with when you think about doing it all over again.

She dresses you up. She chooses your clothes for you. She’s your fashion guru/make-up artist/hairdresser in one bestie. Her opinion is the only opinion you trust when it comes to putting that sexy picture on social media or not – if it’s too slutty or just good girl image type. She’s also the decider of which filter you’d use for your pictures to obtain that dope IG feed. She will promote and brag about you being her best best friend to everyone she knows. She’s just purely so proud of your friendship.

She’s the bitch side of you. She will bring down any bitch better than you ever will. She will burn literally every human being who tries to do any harm on you. Your life won’t be complete without her bitching on you.

3. The I’ll Lift You Up (Kahit Gaano Ka Kabigat) Bestie – She has bigger dreams than you and encourages your inner Goddess to come out. She can also be your bible-verse- reference Bestie because she can give you the beautiful verses you’ve never heard before. Even though she’s very busy in her personal life, she would take time to listen to your stories, give you advices (with bible verses), and cheer you up ’til you feel so much better.

She’s also the Mommy ng Barkada. She always thinks about everyone before herself. Her bag usually contains 2 of everything because a friend might need an extra tissue or borrow a pen. She cares for you pike your mom does – knowing what you need before you ask for it. She knows what to say every time you reach out to her. She has thevpower to always lift you up whatever situation you are in.

She did so much for me when my faith became doubtful after so many painful break-ups and personal problems – she kept on telling and reminding me things I almost forgot. She influenced me with her strong faith in God that I became more active in pursuing to know and love God no matter what.

Even when they all have different personas, they all have a common role in my life and they are doing an excellent job at it. Our years of friendship is the ultimate proof of their never-ending and unconditional love for the crazy me! They are there in happy, crazy, wild times and they will be there for me when the going gets rough.Our relationships keep on growing strong with the love and trust we entrusted each other to cherish until after death.

So much love for all the Besties in the world! ❤️

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8/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : LEARN SOMETHING NEW

LEARN CALLIGRAPHY

I always wanted to learn Calligraphy but I thought it was an expensive hobby. Just buying the nibs, holder, and ink will cost you a fortune. I was just a student when I became interested on doing it – didn’t have the chance to buy stuff because I used my allowance plainly for food and for school projects (or in other words, gala). I couldn’t find the inspiration to pursue it also because all subjects in my course requires a final output of research papers and theses. Ain’t nobody got time for other stuff, dude!

So now that I’m a working girl and I have all the control over my finances (and I always fall short heh heh), I sometimes treat myself into stuff like these. Luxuries in life. I always wanted to learn Calligraphy and today is always a great time to start! I went crazy again and I just went to Glorietta 5 after work and bought these cool stuff. Let’s get it on!

Calligraphy Basic Stuff I bought:

  • Nibs – Php175 (3 pcs) Scribe Writing Essentials, Glorietta 5 | Php 90 The Craft Central, Greenbelt 5
  • Holder – Php120, Scribe Writing Essentials, Glorietta 5
  • Ink – Php275 Scribe Writing Essentials, Glorietta 5
  • Penmanship / Exercise Book – Php390 Scribe Writing Essentials, Glorietta 5 | Php 180 The Craft Central, Greenbelt 5

7/365 – To the One Who Came Just in Time

You found me when all my little pieces were still scattered on the floor yet it was planned because you were able to see my bare being. You didn’t just stand there. Soon enough you started picking up pieces but I told you not to. ” Let me do it for myself. ” I said and you just stared at me as I tried to reconcile myself – making me feel that you were there if ever I needed help. You smiled at me and everything else became blurry as I tried to pull away with no success at all. With your every spoken words, pieces were starting to fall back into place as my cold dead heart found its strength to beat after another beat. You are my lifeline. 

You sat beside me as I was like a mobile connected to a power cable – recharging.. regenerating.. rebuilding.. I didn’t wanna rely on you and I refused to lean on you because I knew you were gonna leave soon after you felt how wrecked I was. I didn’t wanna look at you because I didn’t wanna see you walking away.. running away.. going away. No, I can’t deal with that this time. 

I thought you were gonna leave. 

But you didn’t. 

You were just holding my hand as I rebuild myself with your my hands and you were such an understanding fella to not stop me from anything I did even if it hurt you. Yes I knew sometimes I hurt you with every stupid little thing I did. You were just there. 

You didn’t give me any hint of you leaving and everytime I looked you, you’ll mouth these words: ” I’ll be here.” 

I thanked you with all my broken parts and I will thank you now that I’m once again running on my fixated heart. Gratitude for believing my strengths; you always lift my spirits up and believe in my dreams. For always and forever choosing to stay and buying fries (jk) 

Thank you for always seeing me perfectly despite the visible wounds

You didn’t look at it. My downfall. 

Your eyes were fixed on mine as you smile to bring & help rebuild myself. 

Thank you for finding me & thank God for His perfect time.

6/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : BE IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT WON’T WORK

LDR PROBS

Statistics says 70% of Long Distance Relationships don’t work. It requires triple the stuff you put in a normal relationship – triple the trust, triple the love, triple the patience, triple the efforts you give in. Only a few survives. It takes two strong and brave hearts to make it work.  It is the hardest relationship to handle but one of the most treasurable of all the relationships.

I don’t have a brave heart. I easily cripple when something hurtful is happening. I am not that strong. I easily cry on the silliest things which struck my heart. I am not a fighter. I know when I lost the game. I know when to give up because there’s no point to fight anymore. But I can love as if I am one. I can love more than someone can ever love me.

I risked it all. I risked all my self for a relationship I know won’t work. I knew it. I knew it from the very start. But I still fought for it as if it is a normal relationship after all. I fought as if I am receiving all the love I was pouring in the relationship. I embraced it as if it would bring me forever.

Well, you guessed it. It didn’t end well. But it has taught me beautiful lessons in life of which I will carry as I wait for my eternity.

5/365 – 10 minus 21 (Things I did before I turned 21) : Cutting My Hair

Tried a new hairstyle

Hair is the crowning glory of every woman. I kept mine as healthy and as long as it could ever be for 2 straight years. Its length reached the bottom of my buttocks and I was really really proud of it that I whip it back and forth every time. Just kidding, heh heh. But I was really proud of it – even though I grew (and is still growing) fatter or even when my face was super oily or my kilay was not on flick anymore – it didn’t matter. So long as I had my mermaid hair, I felt beautiful. I avoided any salons during those 2 long years and I never even bothered going in to one of those. I didn’t really saved money because I was home-serviced by my hairstylist for my semi-annual Brazilian Blowout Keratin Treatment.

I loved this hair as much as my life but I decided to donate it to cancer patients because I know they need it more. Giving what you love is always more than giving anything monetary. I should be giving it but I forgot that they needed untouched hair and everyone knows my hair is not virgin anymore. Sadlyf – and so my plan failed as easy as that. Hay…

But that one day when I was with a special friend hanging out over pizza and soda changed my mind: an idea came up my mind; It was immediate and shocking but I was brave enough to drag him to bring me to a salon in Glorietta. No hesitations. I just did it. There’s no use of it anymore, better cut the bullshits away, this was what I thought. And there we were.. I was there.. sitting on that odd chair you only found at salons.. wrapped in white cloth and the hairstylist was ready to cut my hair. I didn’t think about anything at that moment. I was even brave enough to tell the hairstylist to ‘Surprise me’ when she was asking what to do with my hair. Hah Hah. I just felt I needed to get away from something hindering me and move to being a better self. I felt I needed to do anything just to keep moving forward – to a new and greatest Elli in 2017.

Is this what turning 21 means? Brave & Bolder me?’I wasn’t really paying attention when she cut my hair but to my surprise, I really like my hair now. 🙂 I look different in a very modest way; Someone who would tell someone the lyrics of Little Mix’s Song (the soundtrack of my life, char).

Thanks Ms. Meg @ Vivere Salon, you did a greatjob.

Vivere Salon / Prices

4/365 – 10 MINUS 21 (THINGS I DID BEFORE I TURNED 21) : GETTING MY OWN SAVINGS ACCOUNT

Getting My Own Savings Account

Investments should be done when you still don’t have any responsibilities. NOW is the time to do so. I got mine when I was still in College and I still use it up to this day. I know banks in the Philippines give Junior Savings account if you’re 18 years old and below but I really pushed my way to get a real Savings Account (because the design seems more tolerable than the Junior one, heh heh RT much). Since I belong to the working class now, this is where I keep my savings especially from 52 week challenge; my own 8 week challenge and; 500 challenge.

  • 52 week Challenge 

52-wk-sample

This is an example of the 52 week challenge you can do on your own. You can settle with whatever is best comfortable with you. If you’re just starting on your work and your salary isn’t that high enough yet then you can just match it with just saving Php5.00 or Php10.00/ week. Just don’t forget to set it aside every week. 🙂

  • 8 week Challenge

For this, I am saving 250/cut-off because I’m saving up to open a COL Financial account for Stocks. I want to start investing as early as today so I will have ample time to save up for my future. You can also set aside a portion of your Salary or Monthly allowance for something you want to buy or invest in beside the 52 week challenge.

  • 500 Challenge

I also set aside Php500.00 every pay day for my investments in the future e.g. a house, or a car, or another degree. I just see to it that I save something for myself for future use.

I try to save as much as I can especially this time of my life because this is really the perfect time to save up so your future self and family won’t suffer. You will always be financially independent – never worrying for the future of your family or never limiting yourself in helping others as much as you want to because you have the resources.

PS. Don’t starve yourself in saving, just take what blessing is enough for you. Bes, di lahat sa’yo. Char-mander. Also, don’t stress yourself up – choose whatever plan you’re best comfortable in doing. Just enjoy the fulfillment of saving. 🙂